Emotional healing therapy in Ontario, online
Work with emotions that can be difficult to access, express, or move through, including the times when feeling very little has become the way you cope.
- Online across Ontario
- Secure video
- Free 15-minute call first
- CRPO#17275
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This may be the right fit if
- You cried at an advert last week and not at the funeral
- Anger reaches you in the car, forty minutes after the conversation ended
- You can say the words out loud in the same tone you use for the bin collection
- Something ended years ago and you have still never let yourself fully feel what it meant
- You experience most things at a slight remove, like weather happening to someone next door
None of this is a diagnosis, and you don’t need to identify with all of it. If one line rings true, that’s enough to start a conversation.
Not sure this is the right approach for you?
If something above rings true, that’s enough to start a conversation. Working out which approach makes sense is something we can figure out together. You don’t have to settle that before getting in touch.
Book a free 15-minute callFifteen minutes, free, with nothing to prepare and no obligation to book sessions.
Emotions can change when we have enough space and safety to experience them rather than immediately pushing them away, explaining them, or acting on them.
Many people learned to keep feelings contained for very understandable reasons. Perhaps there wasn’t room for them at home, expressing them made things harder, or you had to keep functioning when something painful was happening.
Over time, that can make it difficult to know what you feel, express it when it is happening, or recover once a feeling has been activated.
Why do I feel numb instead of sad?
Numbness can be one way of coping when emotions have felt overwhelming, unsafe, or simply too difficult to hold.
It doesn’t mean you don’t care or that there is nothing underneath it. Sometimes emotional numbness affects difficult feelings as well as positive ones, leaving you feeling disconnected from both distress and pleasure.
We don’t try to force the feeling back. We start with what is actually available to you.
What does emotional processing actually mean?
It isn’t simply talking about a feeling until you understand it.
Sometimes you can understand exactly why you’re angry, grieving, or hurt and still feel no different. Emotional work can involve noticing what happens as a feeling arises (thoughts, sensations, impulses, and changes in the body) and learning to stay with an experience without becoming overwhelmed or shutting it down.
The aim isn’t to make you feel everything at once. It’s to develop enough capacity and safety that emotions can be experienced with more choice and less fear.
If you mostly notice feelings hours or days after something happens, mindfulness work may be especially useful. If your body shuts the feeling down before you can access it, nervous-system regulation and somatic work may need to come first.
“Understanding is not the same as experiencing. You can know exactly why you feel something and still need space to actually feel it.”
Anjana Iyer, Registered Psychotherapist
What will the work look like?
Finding more range
Some people have very little language for their emotional experience. Others feel everything but have difficulty knowing what to do with it. We start by developing more awareness of what is actually happening, without judging how much or how little you feel.
Noticing where you pull away
We look for the moments when you disconnect, change the subject, intellectualise, make a joke, become busy, or otherwise move away from an emotion. Those moments can tell us something about what your system has learned to do when feeling becomes difficult.
Working in manageable amounts
We work with emotions in amounts you can stay present with. The goal isn’t to flood you or force a breakthrough. It’s to build your capacity to experience what is there while remaining grounded and connected to yourself.
Making space for what has been postponed
Sometimes grief, anger, disappointment, or longing becomes easier to approach once there is enough room for it. We make space for those experiences without assuming they have to arrive in a particular order or be expressed in a particular way.
Making room for more than pain
Emotional healing isn’t only about being able to feel difficult things. It can also mean becoming more available to pleasure, interest, connection, desire, play, and the parts of yourself that may have become quieter while you were trying to cope.
This is the usual shape rather than a schedule. People move back and forth through these phases, and some parts may need more attention than others.
Questions people ask before they book
Why do I feel numb instead of sad?
Numbness can be a protective response when feeling has become too overwhelming, unsupported, or difficult to manage. It doesn’t mean you don’t care. Sometimes it is precisely because something matters that your mind and body have learned to create distance from it. We don’t try to force you out of numbness. We start with whatever you can notice and build from there.
Is it normal to grieve something years later?
Yes. Grief doesn’t follow a fixed timetable. Sometimes people have to keep functioning through a loss or difficult period and only have more emotional space to process it later. Feeling something years afterward doesn’t mean you are doing grief incorrectly or that you should have “gotten over it” by now.
I cry very easily. Is that the same problem?
Not necessarily. Frequent crying can have many meanings. The question is less how much you cry and more what happens around the emotion: Do you feel connected to what you’re experiencing? Can the feeling settle afterward? Do you understand what is happening, or does it feel as though the tears arrive without you knowing why? We can explore that together rather than assuming that crying automatically means something is unresolved.
How long is a session, how often would we meet, and what does it cost?
Sessions are 50 minutes. Many people begin weekly, with frequency adjusted over time depending on what you’re working on and what is manageable for you. You can find the practical details on the fees and insurance page, and we can also talk through them during the free 15-minute call.
Other approaches that may be part of the work
These are some of the approaches that may sit alongside emotional healing work. Any of them can become more central depending on what you’re experiencing and what we’re working toward.
Recommended by other therapists
Registered psychotherapists are not permitted to publish client testimonials in Ontario, and I would not want to. These are endorsements from other registered therapists, left publicly on my Psychology Today profile.
Anjana brings something rare to her work: a trauma-informed, somatic approach grounded in EMDR and genuine attunement. She holds clients through the kind of healing that goes beyond the surface. A colleague I refer to with confidence.
Blanca Alagon
Registered Psychotherapist
Anjana is a thoughtful, compassionate, and highly skilled psychotherapist. She brings warmth, professionalism, and genuine care to her work, creating a supportive space where clients can feel understood and empowered to make meaningful change.
Max Tkachenko
Registered Psychotherapist, MEd, C-EFIT
Anjana is a compassionate therapist who supports adults with anxiety, trauma, relationship challenges, life transitions, and burnout. She brings a calm, steady presence and offers a culturally aware space where clients can reflect and move toward healing.
Kamakshi Marwah
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, MSc
Can you see me where I live?
Yes, if you’re in Ontario. Sessions are held online, so you can work with me from wherever you are in the province, including Durham Region, York Region, Halton, Barrie, Guelph, Kingston, Kitchener, London, Sudbury and Thunder Bay.
All you need is a private space where you can talk freely and an hour that belongs to you.
What happens next?
A free 15-minute call.
No preparation, no obligation, and nothing to book during the call. It’s a chance to tell me a little about what’s bringing you in, ask questions, and hear how I work.
If you’d rather look at the practical details first, you can read about fees, insurance, and the other concerns I work with.